A Day in the Life, Gamer Life, Geekiness

It’s all in the timing

So I’m in the middle of summer session for grad school.  A COMS class of all things.  It’s not bad but it’s not exactly riveting either.  I’ve learned a lot of this stuff in the course of 30+ years of life already, only now it’s being given names and backed up by research.  Fancy names that don’t really do much in the actually learning, for me at least.  But the timing of it is ironic given what I do for a living and that I’m almost in constant conflict management mode these days.

Timing.  I am a year out from graduating with my Master’s (barring unforeseen circumstances).  I will finish next summer session.  Just in time for Mini to turn 4, just in time for our planned Disney adventure, just in time to start trying for Mini #2.

Timing.  My step-dad passed on Father’s day.  A day that has never really been super important to me given my bio-dad walked out when I was about 3.  I celebrated it with my Opa since he was more of a father figure to me for most of my childhood.  But it was still mostly another day.  I make a bit more effort since we became parents, though even that is more in response to the fact that my husband makes such an effort for Mother’s day.  They are just 2 more days in the year to me.  I know, I’m weird.

Timing.  After my step-dad passed, I got back in touch with my step-sister.  I had never understood what happened between her and my step-dad.  But my step-dad had weird relationships with everyone it turns out.  I knew I was an aunt but it turns out that just a few days before my step-dad passed, he became a grandfather again.  So I have a niece and nephew that I’ve never met.  2 grandchildren that will never get to meet their grandfather.

Timing.  My father in law had surgery last week, has to go back for more surgery next week.  My husband’s grandfather’s dementia got worse this week.  My mother in law is struggling but she doesn’t say anything.  But you can tell when you talk to her.

Timing.  My husband is inches away from finishing his Master’s.  He’s only a few days of internship away from completing it.  Hopefully, the counseling job offer is still open when he finishes in a few weeks.  Supposedly, they’re holding it for him.  He needs it.  He needs to get away from his current job; the shift is starting to wear on him.  A 12 hour shift with a 1+ hour commute one way.  He has to go to bed by 9 pm and be up at 4:30 am.  Plus his department has no appreciation or consideration for their employees, the supervisors do basically whatever they want.  The new sergeant, after preaching about making changes, lets them go on doing like they’ve done for years.  The changes he’s made so far, have not been in consideration of the employees he’s overseeing; they’ve been done to make him look good.

Timing.  Summer is halfway over already.  Soon it will be fall again.  Soon Mini will turn 3.

Timing.  It’s been months since I applied with the new department.  I think if I don’t hear anything by the end of August, I’ll officially call it.  I can’t hang on forever.  Despite knowing that this kind of hiring process takes time, there should still be some consideration shown for those in the hiring process to not drag it out for more than 6 months.  We have lives.  We have goals and aspirations.  We have families to support, plans to make.  It also seems counter-intuitive that if you need to hire new employees, you wouldn’t make that a priority and get it done.  It’s a bit disrespectful to those who applied and those who are having to pick up the slack from a vacancy.  Trying to be patient though because it is summer and people may be on vacation with their families and such.  Still.  It’s tough.

Timing.  While taking this COMS class I got into a discussion with a co-worker of mine.  She’s a devout Christian (in contrast to my Agnostic-Deist-bordering-on-atheist self).  One of my textbooks this session is almost a generic retelling of the Bible, only retelling it as a conflict management strategy guide.  Taken by itself, no big deal.  Taken as a textbook, it’s superfluous.  The topics discussed are already covered in the THREE other textbooks.  My co-worker insists that this is God working on me.  I don’t see how redundant irritants are working on me, other than to work on my last nerve.  She insists.  I let it go, mostly because in 4 1/2 years I’ve learned to accept her ideas, even if I don’t believe in them myself.

Timing.  The plan of trying to pay off some of our debts soon.  Not a lot of progress there but given that we’re barely getting time for sleep these days.  Given that my husband is a compulsive stress-shopper.  Our budget takes some hits these days.  My own stress-shopping doesn’t help but I can at least control mine 90% of the time, plus my stress-shopping also tends to be necessities, like new clothes for Mini because she outgrows old clothes.  Shoes, because I’m slowly replacing the shoes I no longer fit into since my feet went up a half-size during pregnancy.  Some clothes because a lot of my clothes are also not fitting since pregnancy, and yes, I’m just getting around to replacing them.  A lot of household stuff though; food, laundry baskets, new sheets or curtains or towels.  Husband buys things like video games and toys.  We have collected all but one of the Skylander Imaginator Senseis at this point.  We also have many of the original Skylanders, some of the Swapforce, some of the Giants, and some of the Superchargers.  I’ve managed to keep him away from the Trap Force one with the lure of another new Skylanders coming soon.  We also have 1 copy of Destiny 2 pre-ordered.  Very likely we’ll have a second copy pre-ordered by the end of the month.

Timing.  With how busy we are, sometimes the only time we get to bond is at night after Mini is in bed and we hop on the XBox with some friends and play.  We were into Destiny a lot.  Husband is really into a lot of the CoD games.  I got into a few of those and sort of interested in Battlefield but not a lot.  But it’s our chance to unwind and talk with friends that we otherwise might not talk to.  We play Skylanders about once a week now.  I play ESO (or try to) once a week.

Timing.  My online roleplay group is not as active as it used to be.  Many of us have had other priorities come up.  One girl had another baby.  Another has health issues.  One has had job issues.  A few I think, personally, have moved on and just can’t say goodbye.  I set aside time at least once a week to be online and try to interact with other players.  I post one or two times a week, sometimes more if school is on break between sessions (when I don’t have overlap).

Really, life is all about the timing.


Planner Happy


On the subject of the matter of planning…

I’m constantly trying to stay organized.  Like, OCD-level constant.  Because between my work schedule, my husband’s work schedule, his doctors, my doctors, DD’s doctors, training for me (I’m an instructor at work), internship hours for Hubby, bill schedules, school dates and assignments (yay Masters!), etc……

Yeah….I’m crazy busy now that I see all that…because that’s not all the stuff I track even.

So I’m getting a new planner, going with a personal set up with a WO2P (which I think I talked about in last post).  Well, my planner inserts came in today while I’ve been at work and I’m sadly really excited to work on it tomorrow.  I have pretty pens and some washi tape and some scheduling stickers like for bills and appointments and such.  I ordered a pretty little planner kit too to go with the new layout so I’m hoping to hold out but I suspect it’s gonna be a few more days (not sure if tomorrow is considered a holiday for mail delivery), in which case I may just get some of the basic stuff in for the next week or so, such as homework assignments and work schedules.

*le sigh* I’m really trying to get organized this year.  I guess you could say that was my NYR but it wasn’t really.  It’s more of a constantly running goal that I never quite get to unfortunately.  The same thing goes with de-cluttering and cleaning my house (which I realize is nigh impossible when I work 40+ hours/week with a toddler).

A Day in the Life, Geekiness

Scarlet Heart Ryeo

We all have that one thing that is our guilty pleasure, the thing we love but most people don’t really understand so they look at us funny or that we are too embarrassed to tell any living soul that we love it.  I have a couple.  Not that I’m super embarrassed about them, but they definitely fall under the ‘I don’t get it’ category when I explain it to others.

One, is otome (dating simulation games).  I could go on and on about these but I won’t (another entry maybe, another time).

The other is K-pop/dramas.  Korean shows, who knew?  I mean, it makes perfect sense when added with all my other Asian-influenced loves.  But I mean, ridiculously, I love these shows.

The one I was pretty much obsessed with for the last few months was Scarlet Heart Ryeo.  This is actually a re-make of a series that originally aired in China (This series also titled Scarlet Heart is based on “Bu Bu Jing Xin”, a historical novel based on Chinese history).  A historical drama set in ancient Goryeo (simplified version: modern day Korea), Scarlet Heart Ryeo tells the story of Hae Soo, or rather Go Ha Jin living as Hae Soo.  Ha Jin is tranported back through time from present day and ‘replaces’ Hae Soo, a court lady to her sick cousin who happens to be wife to one of the Goryeo princes.

***Caution: Spoilers below!***

As Soo, she ends up falling in love with her cousin’s husband, Prince Wook.  Her cousin however is dying and asks for Wook to take care of Soo (having been re-animated as Soo, Ha Jin is not exactly the same court lady she was before, possessing all of her modern memories and none of Soo’s, e.g., written language, court formalities, etc.  This leads to trouble along the way).  In the meantime, Prince So has returned from another province and Ha Jin recognizes him as a future ruler of Goryeo who is known for being a bloodthirsty king.

As Soo, Ha Jin treats everyone equally, including the several princes that live in the palace and that she interacts with.  As per cliche rules, this makes several fall in love with her.

After much angst, several deaths, a couple bouts of torture, and 2 rebellions, Hae Soo ends up in love with and the lover of So, who has become the king of Goryeo.  However, due to the strain of torture and the constant stress of living in the palace, she has developed a heart failure.  In the end, Soo ends up dying.  Ha Jin wakes up in the present day.  We find out that she had apparently been in a coma for a year (presumably while she was living out Hae Soo’s life in ancient Goryeo) and has no memory now from Soo’s life except flashes in her dreams, from which she often wakes up crying for a reason she can’t understand.

She does eventually get her memories as Soo back which leads her to feel guilt and heartbreak over ‘abandoning’ So, something she’d promised not to do.

While the series apparently ends there, my personal hope/feeling, is that they left it open to possibly continue into a second season.  The ending, while similar to the original Chinese incarnation of the series, does not end with quite the same cliffhanger.  In the original Scarlet Heart the apparent reincarnation of the ‘true love’ interest appears and is recognized by the protagonist.  However in Scarlet Heart Ryeo the ‘true love’ interest is only shown in the past sense of himself with no ‘reincarnation’ shown although his determination to find Soo is announced, even if she is from ‘another world’ as he’s been told.

Now apparently the original Scarlet Heart did get a sequel.  Based on the summation, I don’t know that I want Scarlet Heart Ryeo to have that sequel.  I’d like to have a second season, but I think I’d like it to deviate a bit.  Granted, it would still probably end up running on a cliche.

I’d read other reviews where people said they just couldn’t like IU, the actress who played Ha Jin/Soo but I liked her.  Certainly I didn’t feel like her acting was flat or detracted from the show (which was the most frequent complaint against her).  My husband would always make fun of me because he’d come home and I’d be holding my tablet, sobbing like the dog had just died.  The show had several ups and downs and since I wasn’t familiar at all with the Chinese one (which I was aware of about 3 episodes in but purposefully did not look at prior to finishing the entire series), I was constantly left waiting for the next episode, clutching my tablet and cursing.  I have to say my favorite characters were easily Soon Deok (actress: Z. Hera), Baek Ha (actor: Nam Joo Hyuk) and Jung (actor: Ji Soo).  (Seriously though, Jung was my fave but shhhhhh!)  Overall, I felt the cast was quite strong, no character felt ‘flat’ to me as any character who got a name (essentially this was only those directly involved in the plot, very few background characters got names), also had a backstory and a personality.  For instance, Soo ends up being betrayed by someone who she had come to consider not only a friend but like a sister.  The betrayal isn’t just left there, it’s explained and the reasons behind it explored and compared to Soo’s own situation (turns out Soo was betrayed for the sake of her friend’s love).

Scarlet Heart Ryeo is only available in the U.S. on Dramafever (app available on iTunes and Google Play) and currently has a user rating of 4.7/5, a rating that I highly agree with.



NaNoWriMo Day 3

So I lowered my expectations of myself.

I feel like somehow that should be considered shameful.  Somewhere someone I don’t care about is saying “Ugh, look at you, you total stranger to me.  You made a goal and you should stick to it, hold yourself accountable.”

To that stranger…eff off.

That being said, yes, I did set a goal, however now I realize that goal was probably highly unrealistic and unreasonable.  I’m a full-time 40+ hour a week jobber, with a 2-3 hour commute each day.  I come home to a 2 year old who wants my attention (and deserves every bit of it I can give her!!!) plus a husband who is almost as needy.  On top of all that I have a house to take care of, as well as pets including a dog who needs walking.  Throw on top of all that that I’m also taking classes towards my Masters.  Yeah, I think 500 words a day was a bit too lofty of a goal for myself this year.

You have to think of it this way.  A paragraph is roughly 30-50 words.  You figure 10-20 paragraphs is roughly a chapter , that’s anywhere from 300-1000 words!  I was basically asking for a chapter a day in writing.  Add in that on a computer in 11 pt font with 1.5 spacing and 1 inch margins, 300 words is roughly only 5 1/2 inches of screen space.  Going further with this extrapolation, the average novel is printed with roughly 5′ x 3′ actual reading space when you take header and footer into account.  300 words is actually roughly 2 pages in a novel.

To recap, yeah, that’s a lot of writing for someone who basically only has about 20 minutes of ‘free time’ in a normal day, usually at the end of the day after DD has gone to bed and before I have to go to bed.  So am I at my best?  No.  Most emphatically, no.

So I lowered my goal to 100 words a day, which means 700 a week.  Still a bit lofty but not so bad.  As of today, my document is at 327 words so I’m on point for my word count (making up the first two days where I didn’t get a chance to write at all).  Part of my non-writing on the first two days was the high word-count goal.  I sat there going “There’s no way I can make that word goal tonight.  It’s already X time and I have to be at work in 5-7 hours!”

I don’t feel bad about it.  I mean, like I told one of my friends who is also doing NaNoWriMo, the point is to write!  The point isn’t to write a finished product (although that might be your goal and is certainly an admirable one), the point is to write and to keep writing!  To not let yourself get discouraged or distracted!

Being A Grown Up, Geekiness

NaNoWriMo Day 1

Well my goal was to participate in NaNoWriMo this year. So far I’m off to a terrible start.

Work has been ridiculously busy this week and none of us can figure out why.  Don’t say it’s because there was a holiday because Halloween doesn’t usually cause this level of insanity.  Sure, you get the teen hecklers, a couple DUI but this has been non-stop crazy since Friday! And I’ve worked 4 of those days so I would know.  Currently working on day 5.  I’m kinda tired (can’t imagine why, maybe it’s the 42 hour week I’ve already worked with 8 1/2 hours left).

So I’m struggling to get homework done in the evenings after DD goes to bed.  I’m staying up later and getting a lot less sleep, like 5 hours or less.  Last night was the first night I think I’ve slept 6 hours.  I’m still tired.  Pretty sure I’m getting dark circles under my eyes lately.  Tomorrow I may get to sleep a little later, not a lot though because I’ll be watching DD and she has a doctor appointment in the morning.  But I’m aiming for Saturday and Sunday getting to sleep in because hubby will be off so he’ll be getting up with her.

Anyway! I went to write last night and totally blanked.  The internet was down too so I couldn’t get anything done online, no research or shows or games. 

It was tough.  So I’ll try to make up my day 1 with double the words tonight (if I can stay awake to do it).




Ring around the moon: sign of change, trouble coming soon
Note: Supposedly if it’s a moonbow ring (like a rainbow during the day) it’s a sign of good things coming

Blood on the moon (red moon): sign of death, war, trouble, conflict


Palms: (right palm) money coming in, company coming; (left palm) money going out

Ears: being talked about (right: spite, left: love, though some do say it reversed)

Feet: bottom of your feet itch means you will take a trip

Nose: you’ll kiss a fool


A bird flies into a home, a life will fly out (death)

Two blackbirds sitting together is good luck.

One crow brings sorrow, two crows bring mirth, three crows bring a wedding , four crows bring a birth.

A dog howling while someone is sick foretells death.

Frogs bring good luck to the house they enter.

Killing a ladybug brings bad luck.

Dreaming of a white horse foretells death.

Cricket in the house bring good luck.

Pictures of elephants bring luck, but only if facing a door.

Dreaming of fish, someone you know is pregnant.

It’s bad luck to see an owl in sunlight.


Ivy growing on a house protects its occupants from evil.

Knocking on wood (several versions, including possibly appeasing or thanking local land spirits/fairy/sprite)

Carry an acorn for luck and long life.

Clovers for protection from magicians/fairies.

Catch a falling leaf on the first day of autumn, you won’t catch a cold all winter.

Mistletoe brings good luck and fertility.

Rosemary by the doorstep keeps witches away.


Touching a loved one who has died will prevent dreams of them.

Death comes in threes (this one my husband firmly believes in!!)

Unexplained knocking foretells death or misfortune.


First time entering a home (or entering a home after the New Year), step right foot first for good fortune.

Find a penny facing up, all day long have good luck.

You must get out of bed on the same side you got in or you’ll have bad luck.

New clothes worn on Easter bring good fortune for the next year.

Black cat walking towards you brings luck.  Black cat walking away takes luck with it.


Splitting to walk around something like a pole (like with a spouse or a friend), means the relationship will end.

My Oma always said this one (I was a Thursday baby btw, DD was born on Saturday, hubby was a Friday):
Monday’s child is fair of face;
Tuesday’s child is full of grace;
Wednesday’s child is full of woe;
Thursday’s child has far to go;
Friday’s child is loving and giving;
Saturday’s child works hard for a living.
But the child that is born on the Sabbath day
is fair and wise, good and gay.

Knitting for a future child before you are pregnant may prevent you from having children.

Saying goodbye on a bridge means you will never see each other again.


Evil spirits can get you if you stand inside a circle.

The sound of bells drive away evil spirits.

Fingernail cuttings should be saved, burned, or buried.


Hunter’s Moon

In honor of Halloween (and with NaNoWriMo coming up and wanting to participate and get back into writing), I’ve been watching all my go-to Halloween movies: Practical Magic, Nightmare Before Christmas, Corpse Bride, Hocus Pocus, etc..  And several of them mention moon superstitions.  Sandra Bullock’s character in Practical Magic says, “The moon tonight, there’s a circle around it. Sign of trouble not far behind.”  It’s always made me curious if that’s a real superstition.  So I went to trusty Google.  Eventually my search just became about superstitions in general.

I can remember my Oma being nearly rabid in her belief that birds in the house were bad luck.  And I remember her saying “Company coming” when a broom fell over in the kitchen.  Now to have a little background, my Oma’s family is from Beverly, MA so Salem and witches and all that were always a part of my childhood.  My Oma taught me how to crook my fingers at someone and apparently having a 5 year old do it towards you can be scary (so I was always told).  I still can crook my fingers and the joints in my fingers do this funny-popping thing so it makes it really eerie.  Probably my Oma is why I have such an interest in the occult (not as a practitioner but more as intellectual curiosity, like an anthropologist).

Plus this weekend is a Hunter’s Moon plus a supermoon.  Last night the moon was amazing to see and this morning it was equally beautiful.  I might have to dust off my SLR camera and go try to get a shot of it over our trees.