So I’m in the middle of summer session for grad school. A COMS class of all things. It’s not bad but it’s not exactly riveting either. I’ve learned a lot of this stuff in the course of 30+ years of life already, only now it’s being given names and backed up by research. Fancy names that don’t really do much in the actually learning, for me at least. But the timing of it is ironic given what I do for a living and that I’m almost in constant conflict management mode these days.
Timing. I am a year out from graduating with my Master’s (barring unforeseen circumstances). I will finish next summer session. Just in time for Mini to turn 4, just in time for our planned Disney adventure, just in time to start trying for Mini #2.
Timing. My step-dad passed on Father’s day. A day that has never really been super important to me given my bio-dad walked out when I was about 3. I celebrated it with my Opa since he was more of a father figure to me for most of my childhood. But it was still mostly another day. I make a bit more effort since we became parents, though even that is more in response to the fact that my husband makes such an effort for Mother’s day. They are just 2 more days in the year to me. I know, I’m weird.
Timing. After my step-dad passed, I got back in touch with my step-sister. I had never understood what happened between her and my step-dad. But my step-dad had weird relationships with everyone it turns out. I knew I was an aunt but it turns out that just a few days before my step-dad passed, he became a grandfather again. So I have a niece and nephew that I’ve never met. 2 grandchildren that will never get to meet their grandfather.
Timing. My father in law had surgery last week, has to go back for more surgery next week. My husband’s grandfather’s dementia got worse this week. My mother in law is struggling but she doesn’t say anything. But you can tell when you talk to her.
Timing. My husband is inches away from finishing his Master’s. He’s only a few days of internship away from completing it. Hopefully, the counseling job offer is still open when he finishes in a few weeks. Supposedly, they’re holding it for him. He needs it. He needs to get away from his current job; the shift is starting to wear on him. A 12 hour shift with a 1+ hour commute one way. He has to go to bed by 9 pm and be up at 4:30 am. Plus his department has no appreciation or consideration for their employees, the supervisors do basically whatever they want. The new sergeant, after preaching about making changes, lets them go on doing like they’ve done for years. The changes he’s made so far, have not been in consideration of the employees he’s overseeing; they’ve been done to make him look good.
Timing. Summer is halfway over already. Soon it will be fall again. Soon Mini will turn 3.
Timing. It’s been months since I applied with the new department. I think if I don’t hear anything by the end of August, I’ll officially call it. I can’t hang on forever. Despite knowing that this kind of hiring process takes time, there should still be some consideration shown for those in the hiring process to not drag it out for more than 6 months. We have lives. We have goals and aspirations. We have families to support, plans to make. It also seems counter-intuitive that if you need to hire new employees, you wouldn’t make that a priority and get it done. It’s a bit disrespectful to those who applied and those who are having to pick up the slack from a vacancy. Trying to be patient though because it is summer and people may be on vacation with their families and such. Still. It’s tough.
Timing. While taking this COMS class I got into a discussion with a co-worker of mine. She’s a devout Christian (in contrast to my Agnostic-Deist-bordering-on-atheist self). One of my textbooks this session is almost a generic retelling of the Bible, only retelling it as a conflict management strategy guide. Taken by itself, no big deal. Taken as a textbook, it’s superfluous. The topics discussed are already covered in the THREE other textbooks. My co-worker insists that this is God working on me. I don’t see how redundant irritants are working on me, other than to work on my last nerve. She insists. I let it go, mostly because in 4 1/2 years I’ve learned to accept her ideas, even if I don’t believe in them myself.
Timing. The plan of trying to pay off some of our debts soon. Not a lot of progress there but given that we’re barely getting time for sleep these days. Given that my husband is a compulsive stress-shopper. Our budget takes some hits these days. My own stress-shopping doesn’t help but I can at least control mine 90% of the time, plus my stress-shopping also tends to be necessities, like new clothes for Mini because she outgrows old clothes. Shoes, because I’m slowly replacing the shoes I no longer fit into since my feet went up a half-size during pregnancy. Some clothes because a lot of my clothes are also not fitting since pregnancy, and yes, I’m just getting around to replacing them. A lot of household stuff though; food, laundry baskets, new sheets or curtains or towels. Husband buys things like video games and toys. We have collected all but one of the Skylander Imaginator Senseis at this point. We also have many of the original Skylanders, some of the Swapforce, some of the Giants, and some of the Superchargers. I’ve managed to keep him away from the Trap Force one with the lure of another new Skylanders coming soon. We also have 1 copy of Destiny 2 pre-ordered. Very likely we’ll have a second copy pre-ordered by the end of the month.
Timing. With how busy we are, sometimes the only time we get to bond is at night after Mini is in bed and we hop on the XBox with some friends and play. We were into Destiny a lot. Husband is really into a lot of the CoD games. I got into a few of those and sort of interested in Battlefield but not a lot. But it’s our chance to unwind and talk with friends that we otherwise might not talk to. We play Skylanders about once a week now. I play ESO (or try to) once a week.
Timing. My online roleplay group is not as active as it used to be. Many of us have had other priorities come up. One girl had another baby. Another has health issues. One has had job issues. A few I think, personally, have moved on and just can’t say goodbye. I set aside time at least once a week to be online and try to interact with other players. I post one or two times a week, sometimes more if school is on break between sessions (when I don’t have overlap).
Really, life is all about the timing.